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Declaration of Independence
Wrinkled copy of the United States Declaration of Independence.

Has American history been rewritten? Are you curious to know? I began asking that in college during the 60’s. It set me on an interesting journey. I encourage you to share it with your children. That is if you don’t want history to repeat itself.

American History Rewritten: The American Revolution

Do you know our children are taught that the American Revolution was fought over a tea tax (The Boston Tea Party)? Perhaps you too thought that.

The Declaration of Independence clearly spells out the reasons for the revolt against British Colonial rule. The Boston Tea Party did happen, but it was by no means the reason for the American Revolution…History has been rewritten.

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American history

The spark that ignited our Founding Fathers was the British Coercive Acts of 1774. They were a collection of four laws imposed on American colonies. The colonists called them the Intolerable Acts.

The Four Coercive Acts

History rewritten

I. The Boston Port Act

was passed on March 31, 1774. It was designed to punish the colonies for what a small band of Bostonians did. They dumped tea into the harbor objecting to a tea tax. The Boston Port Act commanded that the Royal British Navy blockade all imports to the Boston Harbor…. except for “necessary provisions” (like provisions for the British army, fuel and wheat.). It also prohibited any exports form the Boston Harbor.

Can you imagine the impact? It damaged the provincial economy, drove up unemployment, and starved the Boston people. Were you taught that? Was history rewritten? Why?

2. The Massachusetts Government Act

was the second “Intolerable Act”. It passed on May 20th 1774. Massachusetts had previously elected their Council. No more…not with this new decree. From now on the council was appointed by Britain’s crown. But it did not stop there.

(a) The new Royal Governor would now choose judges and county sheriffs. The Royal Governor would also appoint jurors. This harmed the impartiality of the colony’s judicial System.

(b) Town meetings were also restricted to once a year, with any additional meetings requiring the Royal Governor’s approval.

3. The Impartial Administration of Justice Act

further increased the power of the Governor. It gave the Royal Governor the power to move a trial to another colony or to Great Britain if it was so determined.

Think about it: These two acts eliminated the right to a fair trial by one’s peers. It removed an established judicial principle dating back to The Magna Carta. The Government Act and Impartial Administration Act abolished representative government. They established an all-powerful governor, and abolished the right to a fair trial. As you can see, it was about far more than a “tea tax” . Was history rewritten?

4. The Quartering Act

was the fourth and final act of the Coercive Acts. It was given royal assent on June 2 1774. It was the only one to apply to all the colonies. This Act commanded that British troops be housed in “uninhabited houses” (out-houses, barns, or other buildings). They were to be housed at the expense of the colonists. It brought British troops close to home, giving them more control over the people.

Our Forefathers Objected

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The colonies petitioned. But it fell on deaf ears. The intolerable acts were not repealed. Needless to say, the Coercive Acts caused a shift in American opinion. George Washington originally condemned the Boston Tea party. But he now rallied behind the Bostonians. The American Revolution began in April of 1775.

History Rewritten Using Dictionaries Too

In the 60s when I started college, our professors were teaching: that we were a “democratic republic”. My Dad would say, “No, we are a republic”. But I thought my professors knew more.

But years later schools began teaching that we are a democracy…leaving out republic all together. Like you, I got curious. I too began researching.

Welfare defined 1828 history

The word “welfare” is used in the Preamble of the Constitution and in two other places as well. Rewriting history and dictionaries makes it difficult to understand the Constitution’s original meaning. One needs an old dictionary, old documents, the Federalist papers, and old text books.

A free online 1828 definition defines Welfare this way: WELFAREnoun [well and fare, a good faring; G.]

1. Exemption from misfortune, sickness, calamity or evil; the enjoyment of health and the common blessings of life; prosperity; happiness; applied to persons.

2. Exemption from any unusual evil or calamity; the enjoyment of peace and prosperity, or the ordinary blessings of society and civil government; applied to states.

But a modern dictionary describes the word welfare as the government giving money to the needy.  …Big difference.

Other British Colonies

Ireland and India had similar problems with British Colonialism (Hegemony). That is not to say the British are bad people. However anything that becomes too powerful has the potential to become dangerous.

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Articles of interest:

  1. How To Home School
  2. Did you know: ism Words like socialism, capitalism, and fascism did not even exist before the early 20th century when history was being rewritten?
  3. Learn about socialism from a real life experience.
  4. How to teach phonics, reading and comprehension

How to home school your child without bringing both you and them to tears is easier than you think.. With a little information and the right tools, your child will succeed. Their tears will turn to joy. So will yours.

First thing to remember is to give both you and your child time to learn how to home school. Don’t worry about that, because your child won’t miss out on a grade level. In other words: Home school is not the classroom. Let me repeat that, because it is important: “home school is not the classroom”. The whole world is now your classroom, and you are not under the same restrictions as a public school teacher.

Secondly: The biggest mistake new parents make, when they home school their children, is to duplicate the public school system and curriculum. It sets one up for failure. This pubic school teacher who became a homeschooling mom explains. The U.S. use to have the best education in the world. But with the advent of a “one size fits all approach from the bureaucrats, we now rank 38 out of 71 countries.

How To Home School steps

1. Begin by learning your home school State laws. There are Home School Associations in every state that will provide you that information at little or no cost. For Florida, I recommend The Florida Parent Educators Association. Be sure to check out their annual home school convention and one of my articles on their site. For other states, I recommend The Home School Legal Association.

2. Connect with local homeschooling families that can be found on your State home school association site. The larger groups provide field trip, graduation ceremonies, and legal information. You will eventually find a small group that will provide an opportunity for your children to socialize. The parents, in this small home school groups, can also take turns teaching various subjects on a weekly “get together.”

3. Choose your curriculum wisely. The free government curriculum duplicates “the one size fits all” problem that plagues today’s pubic schools. I recommend Ring Around The Phonics for teaching reading (early reader books are included), phonics, comprehension skills, listening skills, and even some foreign languages like Spanish. Ring Around the Phonics can be used to create you and income too.

4. I recommend Math U See for beginning math concepts.

The World is Your Classroom

  1. A trip to the grocery store can become a lesson in weights, measures, math, check book balancing, and budgeting, and reading .
  2. Building a bird house or fort can become a lesson in geometry, measuring, and design.
  3. A walk in the woods becomes a lesson in nature, animal studies, resources, songs, insects, birds, archaeology and sequencing.
  4. Playing games like Ring Around The Phonics can teach co-operation, listening skills, and comprehension skills as well as phonics and reading. Games involve all the senses, which improves the health of the brain
  5. Hands on learners and analytical personalities learn best while doing things. Work books and sit down learning are a disaster for hands on learners.
  6. Finish schools surpass U.S. public schools. That is because they are more like U.S. home schools. https://www.smithsonianmag.com/innovation/why-are-finlands-schools-successful-49859555/

How To Home School Children With Learning disabilities

Scientists are rethinking everything they knew about learning disabilities. At this link you will learn how to home school the child with ADD/ ADHD. Check back with us regularly, because we will be posting more about learning disabilities and recent findings.

Government Curriculum Changes History

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Learn more about true American history here.

Learn how to teach phonics, reading and comprehension here.

Extended Families

broken families lost souls

Broken families have created an increase in crime (“Lost Souls”). The cause and solutions will likely surprise you as it did for me. This article is for all the parents who want to help their children avoid abusive relationships. It is also for parents who have been shunned by their adult children.

As a child, my father took us to visit family in the interior of Mexico far from the big cities.  The extended family (children, aunts, uncles, grandparents,   great grandparents) all lived together in a small community.  Each had their own home built in a circular pattern with an open center where the children safely played in the watchful care of the family.  Adding to the family safety, there was one way in, and one way out.

Most had dirt floors, but they were all very proud to show us one relative’s home in the circle had wooden floors. I was impressed by the fact that no one seemed envious or jealous of her prosperity. They seemed to feel that her accomplishment was their own, and did not feel she should redistribute her good fortune to the rest of the family.  My Mexican relatives were most gracious, and happy to see relatives from America.  They openly shared what they had with us, and the food was delicious.

Indigenous Tribe

I watched a documentary about a small indigenous tribe in the Amazon. The village worked together much like my family in Mexico.  When one member of the village made the meat kill for the tribe’s food, he was rewarded by having first choice of the meat.

Some of the men in the tribe were brought to America to witness how Americans lived. Some Americans hosted their brief stay in America bringing them into their own homes.  At first their American hosts thought the Amazonians would be impressed with American prosperity.  But to her surprise, the men were surprised to see all the homeless in the midst of all this prosperity. 

One of them was particularly drawn to a very old homeless man.  He spent the whole day with him to show him that he was a valuable human being deserving of love and attention.  When they returned to the home of their host that evening, they talked about the old man, “who had no one to love him”.  They said that would not happen in their village. The indigenous people told her they were going to pray for Americans.  They said, “Americans have lost their souls”.

I began to research this more.  There can be many reasons for the divisiveness in families.  Mental illness is no excuse, but it happens. Abuse can divide families.  Alcohol and drugs can cause one to lose their souls. But it was something else that began to surprise me as I did the research…It was totally unexpected. 

Mommy Blame/Broken Families

1.  ELEANOR BAILEY writes about a real life example:

The man who created the BBC, the first Director General, Lord Reith had the classic split personality of the over-achiever. At work he was a colossus – revered, respected and highly honoured. At home, to his family, he was a tyrannical bully.

A new biography by his now 74 year old daughter reveals that he had a string of blatant affairs, conducted openly and for which he never felt obliged to apologize, despite his public views on television’s absolute responsibility to uphold moral standards.

There was his emotional distance, his anger – he threw telephones across rooms and smashed crockery – his dismissal of family seaside holidays as “provincial and boring”.

There was the dog which he thrashed with his belt and the public humiliation of his ever-loyal wife.

He thought his children were put on this earth to improve his own image – he exerted such pressure on his daughter, Marista, to become a concert pianist that she was left incapable of playing except in an empty room.

Yet, in her new biography, his daughter doesn’t blame him.

“It must have been awful to be John Reith” she writes with remarkable sympathy, “he was always looking for something and not finding it… the man who is forever looking for his mother – a mother who was always out doing good works in the parish.”

Reith, she explains, was the youngest of six. His mother was the wife of a Scottish minister and too busy.

Mother blame pervades the media, pop psychology, celebrity biography. Most tin-pot dictators seem to have had a hard time growing up.

“If you’re a good mother, your kid will go to Harvard; if you’re a bad mother, your kid will be an axe murderer” wrote Susan Douglas, American co-author of “The Mommy Myth”, summing up our society’s unquestioning belief in a mother’s accountability.

In the last few months alone, newspaper and TV reports have linked “bad” mothering to everything from obesity to teenage pregnancy, hooliganism to illiteracy. And even baldness. And the media just plays up to our own prejudices.

Part of the problem for mothers is that everyone’s expectations of them are so high. Mothers should… encourage but not smother… mentor but not influence… be responsible for happiness but nurture independence too.

“I blame Mum for not standing up to our father,” admits Kristina, 30, “Dad was a drunk and a bully. He used to insult my sister and me and my mother just stood by.

When Did Mother Blaming Start:

Mother blaming, explains Eva Lloyd, Senior Lecturer in early childhood studies at the University of Bristol, first became a national pastime in the early 20th century, when psychology declared the mother the dominant influence on a child’s development – as did Freud.

One of the more preposterous of these ideas was the assertion by 1920’s US behaviourist John B Watson that children should be trained tough, like guard dogs, and that “sentimental” mothers ruined their children.

Other classics included the claim that autism was caused by emotionally cold mothers and homosexuality by a mother who wanted her boy to be a girl.

Those theories have long since been discredited. Now psychologists believe that a whole host of factors – genetic, biological and social – influence what turns one child into a model citizen and another into a parent killer.

Dr Sandra Wheatley, social psychologist with a special interest in motherhood, admits that mothers are easy targets partly because they are sponges for guilt.

“One study showed that sixty-three per cent of mothers doubt they are doing a good job,” she says.

Denise Tyler, editor of on-line magazine mother@work, agrees. “Whenever there’s a debate about working versus non-working mothers it always gets very defensive,” she points out.

“Working mothers are criticized for not being there for their children, yet full-time mothering is rarely respected.”

Studies suggest that a family environment is best for children up to the age of 13 months (note family, not necessarily mother) but that other kinds of care need not have a negative effect after that.

And in any case psychologist Judith Rich Harris’ work suggests that peer group is more influential on older children than mothers.

“When they go out”, says Rich Harris “they cast off behaviour acquired from parents like a dorky sweater their mother made them wear”.

Source:  https://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-413688/Why-mothers-blame.html 

Broken Families From Mommy Blame

Paula Chaplan writes: 

A tendency to blame mothers still pervades even when the host of other influences on children is taken into account: adults visiting or living in or near the home, teachers, other children, the media, books, and the children’s innate temperaments or predispositions. Nevertheless, in a study of 125 articles written by mental health professionals in scholarly journals, mothers were blamed for 72 different kinds of problems in their offspring, ranging from bed-wetting to schizophrenia. Each article was classified in relation to 63 types of mother blame, such as numbers of words used to describe mothers and fathers, direct attributions of children’s problems only to mothers, and unquestioning acceptance of mother blame from previous writers.  

Mother blame is common among not just therapists but also laypeople, and is powerful in a sexist society. Caplan revealed that quite often, those who will not tolerate offensive jokes about women will not object to the identical jokes if they are about mothers. Mother-blame has been taken to extremes, such as hate speech that is intended to shame, silence, and/or render its victims powerless, helpless, and hopeless.

Source  https://abatteredmother.wordpress.com/2011/04/14/mother-blaming/

As a result many children now blame their mothers rather than taking responsibility for their own choices. That renders these adult children helpless to solve their problems, and  dooming them to a life of dysfunction.  There is more profit in keeping people sick. 

“Some Adult children are so afraid of being seen as unable to cope that they deliberately hit out at the one person in their lives that unconditionally should love them, and accept them for what they are. The thing that adult daughters should remember though, that if they in turn have children, they reap what they have sown.”  https://www.answers.com/Q/Why_do_adult_daughters_hate_their_mothers 

Mothers who have adult children who blame them in this manner would be wise to remember: “We break our own harts when we expect others to love us as much as we love them.”

Men are toxic

Men are Toxic and Broken Families

  • Lately I have heard this term used against men.  Men are often described as unnecessary now that the government provides welfare for women and their children. In fact many couples are forced to avoid marriage, because financially it is better for them.
  • Several high profile mail newscasters have been fired simply by the accusation of a woman.  They were fired using trial by media rather than due process. Some may have been guilty. But do you really want to give up your right to a trial by jury in exchange for a trial by the media? It is interesting to note that the news casters were replaced by several people who are likely paid a lot less.
  • Several single women have said that they are glad they are raising the child by themselves so they don’t have a man influencing their children.
  • In this video a young man poses an important question about why he’s treated as guilty for all the bad things that have happened to women. He asks, “Is this fair”. If a woman accused him he’d be treated as guilty by the system.
  • It is important to note: judging people as a collective group destroys individual rights. Janice Harper, in her book “Mobbed” , explains how collective mobbing is created, and its consequences.

Yet:

Here in the U.S. my Grandmother was the one that kept the extended family bonded.  My brothers and I were raised often surrounded by the influence of grandparents, Aunts, Uncles and cousins.

  • My Aunt Margaret and Uncle Cristobal, taught us the true meaning of love, and a respect for nature.
  • From Uncle Bill, we learned parenting skills, nurturing and how to cook.
  • From my Dad, we learned analytical thinking, and prayer combined with meditation like Jesus taught
  • Mom taught us a strong sense of ethics.
  • From the dysfunctional relatives, we learned what we did not want to become. (More on that below)
  • My brothers taught me that young boys have a very different idea about girls, Than girls think they do. Did you know that, in spite of the evidence, children are being taught that boys and girls think alike? Then parents wounder why their children don’t believe them.

Protecting our children from broken Families and lost souls

Today when parents try to explain to their children why they should not hang around drug users and “takers”, their children Often reply, “You are too Judgmental”. In trying to explain to the young people why it is important to not become entangled with narcissistic, or abusive personalities, you often hear, “But I love them.” They do not understand the consequences nor the red flags.

In my extended family we had the dysfunctional…the drug users, abusive personalities and the narcissistic disorders. So I saw the destruction and pain caused by such relationships. One can actually love and car about these dysfunctional people. But that does not mean we marry them.

Such personalities, like the serial killer, can be quite charming. They often latch on to very capable givers. But, in the end, the drug users, abusers and narcissistic personalities try to destroy the God given talents of the giver.

Money as a Guiding Star: causes broken families

I also witnessed this as a young girl. For a time my relative dedicated his life to the ministry, looking for and developing the best in people…their God given talents. I saw God work miracles of healing in the lives of many people in his Church. But when he abandoned that for money (made money his guiding star), the miracles ceased. No one is all good or all bad. But the path others choose is theirs, not yours.

A friend once told me that she use to pray to see the good in people, she ended up in a long abusive relationship that nearly destroyed her. She says she now prays to see people as they really are. We all have the capacity to walk in the “Light” (to express our God given talents), or to walk on the dark side (to loose our souls).

It Takes a Village

Yes it takes a village to raise a child.  A village of people close to that child, and who love and care about them….not a distant Bureaucrat who sees them as a statistic rather than a human being.

My hart goes out to all who have suffered at the hands of abusive relationships. The family unit is being destroyed with these dysfunctional ideas. It is often replaced by government agencies or gangs.  We witness the consequences, like increased violence, lower wages, broken families, and lost souls.

In conclusion: 

Insist that the FBI reopen the investigation on Epstein in order to find our missing children.   Keeping it age appropriate, share this with your children…especially girls who are not listening to you about abusive personalities.   

   

Slavery was a horrific practice. But there has been a lot of confusion about what the Constitution actually says about slavery. . So I decided to read the early documents rather than recent assumptions. I share it with you here.

Does the Constitution say “slaves are three fifths of a person”? You will not find the word slave or slavery in the Constitution anywhere. Article I Section 2 is known as the Three Fifths Clause. Here is what it says:

Article I Section 2 of the Constitution states:

The House of Representatives shall be composed of Members chosen every second Year by the People of the several States, and the Electors in each State shall have the Qualifications requisite for Electors of the most numerous Branch of the State Legislature.

No Person shall be a Representative who shall not have attained to the Age of twenty five Years, and been seven Years a Citizen of the United States, and who shall not, when elected, be an Inhabitant of that State in which he shall be chosen.

Representatives and direct Taxes shall be apportioned among the several States which may be included within this Union, according to their respective Numbers, which shall be determined by adding to the whole Number of free Persons, including those bound to Service for a Term of Years, and excluding Indians not taxed, three fifths of all other Persons. The actual Enumeration shall be made within three Years after the first Meeting of the Congress of the United States, and within every subsequent Term of ten Years, in such Manner as they shall by Law direct. The Number of Representatives shall not exceed one for every thirty Thousand, but each State shall have at Least one Representative; and until such enumeration shall be made, the State of New Hampshire shall be entitled to chuse three, Massachusetts eight, Rhode Island and Providence Plantations one, Connecticut five, New-York six, New Jersey four, Pennsylvania eight, Delaware one, Maryland six, Virginia ten, North Carolina five, South Carolina five, and Georgia three.

When vacancies happen in the Representation from any State, the Executive Authority thereof shall issue Writs of Election to fill such Vacancies.

The House of Representatives shall chuse their Speaker and other Officers; and shall have the sole Power of Impeachment.

Not About Slavery?

One can easily make some false conclusions from Article I Section 2. But not if you know where that Article is located in the Constitution. It is also important to know a little history.

1. Article I (Section 2) was not about slavery. Check it out: it is all about State’s representation in the House of Representatives. That is where it’s location is. Slavery only entered the discussion as a result of an attempted power grab. Each State wanted to make sure they had ample voting powers. Slave states sought to have greater voting powers by counting slaves even though they could not vote.

2. The State Representatives were in a heated discussion that almost killed the Union. Slave states insisted on a representation strictly according to the number of inhabitants, whether they were slaves or free persons. The non-slave States wanted representation according to the number of free persons. The latter did not want any slave counted. Non-slave states argued that if you can count your slaves, we can count our horses.

So the former version would have given the slave holding States a big advantage, and encouraged more slavery. By simply importing more slaves, a State could have easily increased their representation, and power in the House Of Representatives. The disagreement was so volatile that it nearly ended the creation of the Constitution of these United States.

3. They finally reached a compromise. Three fifths of slaves were to be counted as the basis of the appointment of Representatives. Interesting note: They purposely did not use the word slaves for reasons to be explained below. However “other persons” did referr to the slave population.

Why the word slavery is not in the Constitution:

You will not find the word “slavery” in the original Constitution. There is a reason for that. The framers did not want the Constitution to enforce or endorse slavery. In fact; George Mason, said:

“[Slavery is a] slow Poison, which is daily contaminating the Minds & Morals of our People. Every Gentleman here is born a petty Tyrant…. And in such an infernal School are to be educated our future Legislators & Rulers. So some founders argued to preserve slavery in the colonies, but others strongly opposed it. “

Did you know?

The Constitution Was Written To End Slave Trade in 1808

Article I Section 9: “The Migration or Importation of such Persons as any of the States now existing shall think proper to admit, shall not be prohibited by the Congress prior to the Year one thousand eight hundred and eight, but a tax or duty may be imposed on such Importation, not exceeding ten dollars for each person.”

Like most central planning, it had unintended consequences. It did make importing slaves illegal. But slave owners began using slaves as breeders. That drove prices and profits up.

“James Madison is known as the architect of the Constitution“. He said,

“Twenty years will produce all the mischief that can be apprehended from the liberty to import slaves. So long a term will be more dishonorable to the American character than to say nothing about it in the Constitution”


In his book “The Familiar Exposition Of The American Constitution”, Justice Joseph Story writes:

“This clause (Article I section 9) as is manifest from its language, was designed solely to reserve to the Southern states, for a limited period, the right to import slaves. It is to the honor of America, that she should have set the first example on interdicting and abolishing the slave trade, in modern times.” (pg 185).

He further writes (on page 186): “And it ought be considered as a great point gained, in favor of humanity, that a period of twenty years should enable Congress to terminate, in America (as Congress in fact has terminated the African slave trade) a traffic, which has so long and so loudly upbraided the morals and justice of modern nations.” It is interesting to note: that his book was written well before the Civil War.

Note: Joseph Story was Justice of the U.S. Supreme Court from 1811 to 1845. He was a child of the American Revolution, born three years after the Declaration of Independence. His book was once required reading in our schools.

Note: Slaves were smuggled after 1808. But it was unconstitutional to do so. It was illegal. Any group that becomes too big and powerful attracts oppressors especially government. That is why it is so very important to have a Limited government. The colonists, having freed themselves form British oppression, understood that.

Wait a minute. did you think the Revolution was about a tea tax? Not hardly. The Declaration of Independence explains some of the things the colonists suffered under King George.

The video below explains even more about slavery in the U.S.. Frederick Douglas was once a slave. He worked in the underground railroad to free slaves. This is what Fredric Douglas said about the Constitution and slavery.

No Reading Among Slaves

Now one can easily understand why the slave owners did not want blacks taught to read. They would have understood what Martin Luther King understood: The Constitution does not enforce itself.

“In a sense we’ve come to our nation’s capital to cash a check. When the architects of our republic wrote the magnificent words of the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence, they were signing a promissory note to which every American was to fall heir. This note was a promise that all men – yes, black men as well as white men – would be guaranteed the unalienable rights of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness… America has given the Negro people (His words not mine) a bad check, a check which has come back marked ‘insufficient funds.” ….Martin Luther King

The Underground Railroad and the Founders:

Visiting a black college had a profound effect on Ben Franklin. Several years later he joined an abolition Society. Franklin came to believe that slavery should be ended, and eventually freed his own two slaves.

American history is not perfect. We had Founding Fathers who practiced slavery. But why do we no longer hear about those who opposed it? Why do we not hear about those who participated in the “Underground Railroad” to free the slaves? Why do public schools no longer teach the Constitution?

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Does Your Child Have A Learning Disability (or misdiagnoses)?

Learning Disabilities are often misdiagnosed even among professionals.  An increasing number of parents are told their children have a learning disability, and need to be held back or medicated. Many parents have concerns about the latter because medications do have side effects. Being held back can also have side effects.  If this describes you and your child, you will want to read this article before making a decision.

There certainly are times when medication is the answer. However there are numerous cases where children have other conditions that are too often misdiagnosed as a learning disabilities. Symptoms can mimic each other. So parents are wise to be apprehensive. This article provides valuable information and alternative choices that will help you and your child with this important decision. Note: These are not all the possablities, nor is it to put the blame on parents or teachers. This article is provided to imposer parents with information.

In this article, you will find the following:  (1)  Artisan personalities, which is the most common, (2) Scotopic Sensitivity  (3). Natural Time Clocks, which is often the case with analytical personalities like Einstein’s,  (4) The hearing problem called “cookie bites”, (5) The effects of stress (cortisol) on the brain, which is increasingly more common. (6) Pronouncing phonic sounds incorrectly, which is the second most common. (7)  whole word verses phonics.

Artisan Personalities (are frequently misdiagnosed as having a learning disability)

The Hands On Learners (Artisan Personality) are often misdiagnosed as having learning disabilities such as ADD or hyperactivity. They are also often described as “immature“, and held back in school repeatedly.

These children are brilliant until they enter the traditional school environment. They are the first to learn any task that is “hands on” like riding a bike. “Hands on learners” won’t give up until they master such tasks…they might fall off, get skinned up, but are right back on their project until they succeed.

º They like to entertain and to be entertained
º Prefer visual over verbal learning
º The more game like, or hands on the instruction, the better
º Team play and competition work well with these children
º It is more important to praise their performance, than to praise their product
º They like short activities in which they can move around
º Workbooks and flash cards can be devastating to these children

To learn more about different learning styles, you will want to click HERE.

Scotopic Sensitivity

Scotopic Sensitivity (also known as Irlen Syndrome) is so misunderstood that it is often misdiagnosed as a learning disability.  It is a sensitivity to lighting, that causes some children and adults to see things (including letters on paper) as if they were viewing a snowy TV screen, or it can cause them to see inanimate objects moving violently . Some or all of the following symptoms can be noticed in those that have Scotopic Sensitivity:

º Light sensitivity in conditions like glare from lights (car headlights), glare from surfaces, bright lighting, florescent lights (including energy saving light bulbs), sunlight and night vision.
º Contrast problems like black text on a white background can cause the letters or background to move rapidly for these children.
º Window blinds or verticals create a contrast that can create vision problems.
º Stripe and bold patterns can cause them to see violent movement where there is none, or to see them in 3D when they are flat.
º Restricted field of clear vision. They might see only part of a page clearly while the rest is blurry causing them to have trouble keeping track of where they are at on a page.
º Poor depth perception
º Attention and concentration is difficult for these children because of the above described
º These conditions can also cause them to be more susceptible to migraines and headaches
º Note: Some of these children love to draw, but refuse to read. Extreme cases of this condition have been misdiagnosed as Asperger Syndrome.

If you would like to know more about Scotopic Sensitivity, we recommend the following book: Reading by the Colors (Revised)

Note: According to Dr. Aman, this condition can Lead to headaches, anxiety, depression, problems reading, and depth perception issues. He further states that getting this condition treated and properly diagnosed can make a significant difference in your physical and mental health.

Natural Time Clocks

Speaking of one size not fitting all; natural time clocks for learning are different in children. My second grandson was a perfect example:

At the age of five, Koty had learned all of his phonic sounds (from a phonics/reading game…..because he hated flash cards), and could read all of his early reader books. He also enjoyed sounding out large words like “premium” as he and his mother traveled around town playing word games. But he had no desire to pick up a book and read it. He preferred, instead, to have his mother read to him as she had from the time he was little. Mother was becoming a bit worried, because other kids his age were able to read better than koty. But she had read the book Better Late Than Early: A New Approach to Your Child’s Education,  by Raymond and Dorothy Moore. As a result,  she decided to do as the scientific research suggested.

One day Koty again asked her to read a book for him. He was fascinated by the picture on the cover, and wanted to know what was inside. “Sorry Koty”, she replied, “I just don’t have the time right now”. Koty, anxious to learn what was inside this interesting book, began reading it by himself. He did not put it down until he had finished. Mom even allowed him to read late in bed to nurture his enthusiasm.

What a miracle! Just as the Moores had predicted, Koty’s enthusiasm was lit. From that day forward he became an avid reader, and advanced several grade levels in a very short period of time…passing his peers.

My little brother, who is now grown, describes himself as having experienced this same situation. He says he learned to read later than most because he simply was not ready. By the way, he is of above average intelligence.

By the way, as a child Albert Einstein was described as a slow learner, and his teacher believed that he would not succeed in any career.

One can learn more about this research at this link:  Different Learning Styles.

Recent research reveals many children are misdiagnosed as having learning disabilities simply because of their birth month (simply too young). _________________________________

Hearing Conditions such As “Cookie Bites” are not learning disabilities

This one I experience myself, and it is very often misdiagnosed until late in life (for me t was in my 30‘s). Hearing specialists can test for this condition, and prescribe digital hearing aids to help. Allow me to describe this condition for you.

Children with this condition will be able to hear some sounds very well, and others not so well. For example: I hear Rs, and Gs. However F, and S sound just alike to me unless I am able to read your lips. These children become very proficient at reading lips, and logically filling in missing sounds and words. As a result parents often never realize that it is an actual hearing loss.

º You will find that these children seem to follow instructions better when they are looking at you then they do when not able to see your face.
º They will also commonly mispronounce words causing them to be poor spellers, and poor at decoding phonic sounds to form words (they often pronounce phonic sounds incorrectly).
º Tip: when teaching these children their phonic sounds, be sure they are able to look directly at your lips.

My children say they thought I was ignoring them when they said Mom. The truth was, I did not hear the M…I only heard short vowel o.
Many children with hearing problems often compensate by becoming good listeners, and good at reading faces.

Stress And The Toxic Hormone Cortisol cause learning disabilities

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SPECT Scan Of Unhealthy Brain

If your child is experiencing stress, pay close attention to this section. The results of too much Stress causes learning disabilities, and must be addressed.  When we experience stress, it causes an elevated level of the toxic hormone cortosol, and children are less able to deal with stress then are adults.

Studies show that the toxic effect of excessive cortisol resulting from stress, has an effect on the brain. Note: The effects can be lasting if stress happens over a long period of time. This hormone was found to be one of the major causes of behavior problems, learning disabilities (ADD, ADHD, dyslexia, hyperactivity, ext), confusion, and impaired thinking in adults and in children. This hormone effects children’s ability to learn.

I find children can become stressed simply because they think something is wrong with them if other children are learning to read faster then they are. Some of the conditions mentioned above , diet (like an allergy or sensitivity to sugar), incorrect disciplining procedures, or excessive testing  can cause stress. Very sensitive children often need different discipline practices than other children might. In large classrooms this is often very hard to accomplish (one size never fits all).

Madeline Lavine PhD is a psychologist with over 30 years experience working with children. In her book, Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success , she explains that the way we are educating children today is actually causing learning disabilities.

 Pronouncing Phonic Sounds Incorrectly

I have worked with many children who falsely believed that something was wrong with them because they were not reading as well as other children, and this alone can cause stress for children (elevated cortisol levels). Pronouncing the phonic sounds incorrectly is one of the most common causes of an inability to read. Not all children are hindered by this, but way to many are. So if your child knows their phonic sounds, but is having trouble reading this section is definitely for you.

One of my students was enunciating only the letter w incorrectly. But she believed that something was wrong with her because others were reading better than she was, and it became a self fulfilling prophecy. She was stressed every time she was asked to read a book, She could read perfectly while playing our reading game because play takes away stress. But put a book in front of her, and she couldn’t read the same word that she just read while playing the game.

So in this child’s case I used the board game to teach her blending of the phonic sounds (especially words with w in them). After she became confident that she could read using the game, I presented her with a grade level book. When she struggled with a word in the book, I simply put that word on the red part of the board game (not playing the game, just using the static cling letters, and placing the word anywhere on the board). She confidently read the word placed on the game board (it was a game to her…no stress). Than I had her move back and forth from the game to the book until she got it correctly in the book. After doing this for a period of time, she lost her fear of books.

She went from failing status to top reading group in her class, and the teacher said it also improved her spelling. The following video explains more so that you can check to see if your child is experiencing this condition:

Phonic Sounds Verses Whole Word

This was another one I personally experienced. I suspect my teacher resorted to teaching me word recognition because she recognized that I was not grasping the phonic sounds. She likely never realized it was due to the “cookie bite” hearing loss I describe above.

However not knowing the phonic sounds caused me to read very slowly, and to hate reading. It took me hours to do homework that took other children a much shorter time to accomplish. It was not until I learned phonics that I began to love reading, and my past speed reading classes finally took effect! The following video explains more:

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If your child has learning disabilities:

Meet Karen, a tutor, and hear what she has to say about the children she helps with Dyslexia, ADD, ADHD and Aspergers Syndrome:

Karen uses and endorses Ring Around The Phonics for children with ADD, dyslexia and asperger syndrome. In fact, she says this game landed her tutoring job after her nephew’s tutoring service saw what it did for him.

P.S. Many parents who have children with Autism are finding great results by using the method taught at RDI Connect.

In Conclusion

Being informed, and participating in your child’s diagnosis can make a difference in the outcome of his future.  No one cares more than you.

 

Help Your Child Learn

Are you interested in helping your child learn?  Does it break your heart to see them struggling?  I am going to tell you a true story that will help you to help your child child.

How to help child learn

True Story

In the 70s, I was given my first group of eight children that had not learned to read with the traditional method of teaching. That method was the “one size fits all” approach that plagues the public schools. That is because of   Government Central Planning/ Government mandated curriculum and testing) has not allowed teachers to individualize the curriculum.

That group of 8 were all first graders from the same class.  They were given to me shortly after Christmas. That is when teachers are suppose to decided which children they were going to fail.  This decision is traditionally made by that time of year, because it allows teachers to prepare the other children for the year end test. She (the teacher) told me that I was to help these children learn to read. She continued to work with them on every subject except reading.  So I knew that I was to be their babysitter for the remainder of the year. These eight children were considered dumb by their classmates. It was absolutely no fault of the teacher…It was just kids logical observations, and conclusions.

Help!

Seven were hands on learners, and one had a short term memory problem.  I knew these kids, and their families, because I was in the “Follow Through Program . Thus I knew they were smart, and had the ability to learn. So I just could not give up on helping them by simply babysitting. Perhaps you can imagine how inadequate I felt. To be honest, I was scared. So I did the only thing I knew to do, and that was to pray for guidance. I asked a Higher Power to show me how to help these children. That very night, in a dream, the whole method was presented to me.  So the next school day, I was well prepared.  The children loved the game from my dream.

Parents often approach me with the same feelings I had.  They are concerned that they are not capable of teaching their children phonetic  reading. So I ask them, “Can you read?”  When they say, “Yes”, my reply is: “Then you can teach your child to read. With the right tools it is a ton of fun, and much easier than you think.”  We have even provided you free videos so you can make sure you are teaching the phonic sounds correctly. This is import for some children, and the first video explains the most commonly mispronounced sounds….Free Phonic Sounds Videos Here

Dumb…No!

One little boy (the tallest in the group) was advancing more slowly than the others.  So one child declared, “He is dumb!”  You can imagine how that child felt being called “dumb”.  The tallest child lowered his eyes, and his face.  He looked so sad, and devastated. It was heart breaking. Is that happening to your child?

I knew that he lived on a small farm, and could drive a tractor.  So I quickly said, “Oh no, he is not dumb!  Did you know that he can drive a tractor?”  The other kids exclaimed, “He Can?”   I said, “yes”!  The little boy who thought he was the dumbest of the dumb, was suddenly aroused.  He raised his face, and his blue eyes widened with surprise.   From that day forward, he was considered the hero of the group, and, more importantly, he learned more quickly. In fact all seven of these children began learning faster in other subjects too. That was simply because they discovered that they were not dumb after all.  A child’s attitude about themselves can affect their learning ability.  

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Team Building

Because there had been so much divisiveness and shame in the group, I told them:  “once you all learn your first 8 sounds, we will  read your first book together”.  That day arrived rather quickly, and the kids were so excited (me too).  We all giggled in delight as the reader rapped their arms around themselves in a hug, and giggled with joy.  As a result they had become a team eager to help one-another.help your child learn

Success!!!

Finally I went to the teacher, and told her that seven were reading at grade level, and were ready for her to put back in her reading groups.  However, She did not believe me. So I was their only reading/ phonics teacher for the remainder of the year.

I did not know it then, but the method that came in that dream is whole brain teaching, which involves as many of the senses as possible. Scientific Studies show that with this method, children learn faster, retain more, and it improves the health of the brain. That means it is excellent for hands on learners, and for children with learning disabilities. I will tell you more about that below.

Traditional Method Fails Too Many Children 

These 7 children didn’t learn with the traditional method (flash cards and workbooks), because they were “hands on learners”. Forty Five percent of children are hands on learners.  With this game,  their self-esteem was better, and their stress dissolved, because they were playing. I was teaching. But,  in their mind,  they were playing.  Dr. Stanley explains why this method is so effective (A Vygotskian Perspective) in the video below. Whole brain teaching helps children learn, and studies show that it even reduces stress, and improves the health of the brain.

To the teacher’s surprise, seven of my group passed the end of the year reading test, and were moved on to second grade.  Over the years I repeated that success with children from kindergarten through sixth grade, using that very same method.  Adults began asking me to teach them how to help their children who were struggling with their reading/ phonics. So my daughter, some home school families, a game designer, and an English college professor, helped me to develop the learning game Ring Around The Phonics. It is now easy for you to help your child, because of their loving efforts. (Customers can buy this product on our website).

I am excited to tell you this: To my surprise other educators began to show me that they were using it to help children learn:

  • Phonics, Reading and Blending of Sounds
  • Comprehension, Communication and Listening Skills
  • Spelling and Vocabulary
  • Foreign Languages
  • All sorts of language arts subjects
  • To learn more about the game, click here.  Be sure to check out the savings with our value pack click here (The fourth purchasing option). 

Over the years, I have been blessed with that dream.  Because I have been able to help many more children (home school and public school) using that very game, which we make available to you on this site..  

Now You Can Help Your Child learn, Even If The Teacher says Otherwise

Don’t let your child suffer any longer.  You can help your child with Whole Brain Teaching…  Help them learn to read, the easy and fun way, as have many others just like you.

Nile Stanley, Ph.D. reading professor, University of North Florida

Dr. Stanley explains why this method is so effective (A Vygotskian Perspective).

Note: Studies show that when children discover their natural talents (that which lights their fire), they will learn previously difficult subjects just to be able to do that which sparks them.  Read more about that on our blog.  

Homeschooling provides more of an opportunity to do healthy whole brain teaching than is possible in today’s public schools.

Suicides, depression, and violence are on the increase in our public schools.

Only recently have we began to research the cause, and the findings are very revealing:

Suicides

We  recently saw  a young boy (only a sophomore) from Corona Del Mar High School in California commit suicide. According to a now viral letter written by the high school principal of a neighboring school, a suicide note left alleging school pressures led to his death. It has given pause to the entire community, including school leaders and parents. How did we get here? We got here when we opened every conversation with our high schoolers about futures, goals, and achievements with the words: “I just want you to succeed (make money).” We should be using the words, “I just want you to develop your individual (God given if you will) talents ….to be who you were meant to be. ”  

Depression and ADD

The school librarian in this link is right on. I worked as a professional tutor in the public school system. Many very bright hands on learners, and analytical thinkers do not learn from the method now mandated in the public school system. The conventional method (workbooks and lectures) don’t work for about 40% of the children.  Those individuals who don’t learn with this method are treated like they are dumb, and feeling shamed, isolated, or worthless. So they were given to me to tutor.

Simply by using hands on learning methods (Whole Brain Teaching like Ring Around The Phonics), they quickly and easily learned.  You should have seen the transformation once they discovered they could learn, and did not need to be drugged. We are overly concerned about “success” (making money in the workforce), and not concerned enough about developing a child’s natural individual talents. I witnessed countless teachers who deeply cared about the children, but their hands were tied by a bureaucracy that cares more about money than they do the individual child. 

Misdiagnosed

When Jacob Barnett was 2 years old, he was diagnosed with moderate to severe autism. Doctors told his parents that the boy would likely never talk or read and would probably be forever unable to independently manage basic daily activities like tying his shoe laces.

But they were sorely, extraordinarily mistaken.

Today, Barnett — now 14 — is a Master’s student, on his way to earning a PhD in quantum physics. According to the BBC, the teen, who boasts an IQ of 170, has already been tipped to one day win the Nobel Prize. (Source:  https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/11/jacob-barnett-autistic-14-year-old-nobel-prize_n_3254920.html )

Albert Einstein’s story is very similar. Gandhi failed at the career he was educated for, but he united a Nation.

How Did We Get Here?

Increasingly our children are suffering from depression, suicidal tendencies, violence, and anxiety.  Guns or no guns will solve this. We allow the news media and emotions to divide us with gun issues.  Focus on the kids and the issues they are facing, not guns.

 

 

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Dysfunctional Ideas Create Dysfunctional Lives

“As A Man Thinketh”

As a little girl I use to tell my Mom, “There was a difference between positive thinking, and sticking your head in the sand”.  She thought that if she acknowledged a problem, she was saying a giving it more power.   So problems weren’t discussed, and  festered until they exploded.

Years later I attended a workshop given by a psychologist on why our prison system was not working…Why it was not rehabilitating  prisoners.  He had been part of a 15 year study on this subject, and said they discovered the following:

  1. Education does not rehabilitate, because if you educate a criminal, they don’t rob you with a gun anymore. They rob you with a computer.
  2. Getting them to express their feelings does not work either.  If you get an angry criminal to express his feelings, he simply expresses more anger.

What Does Work

The psychologist went on to explain that we all have false ideas. Criminals simply have more of them.  It was discovered that by changing their false (dysfunctional ideas) to functional ones, was the solution to rehabilitation.  For example:  Many criminals would say to him, “Everyone is doing it”.  His reply was, “Depends on who you hang around.  My friends aren’t doing those things.”  The other psychologists were totally enthralled in what he was saying, until he held up the book, As a Man Thinketh: 21st Century Edition (The Wisdom of James Allen)  “This book is exactly what I have been talking about”, said the speaker.

True Story

As a youth group leader, a 16 year old girl came to me in tears.  She was pregnant, and said,  “I don’t understand why God is punishing me.  My motives were good.  I love the boy.”  I said to her, “what happens if I stick my finger in the electric socket?”  She replied, “You get shocked.”  “Yes”, I said, “and what happens if an innocent baby sticks their finger in an electric socket?”  She replied, “It gets shocked.” I went on to explain that it was not God punishing me, the baby or her.  It is simply the Law Of Cause And Effect.

Because the sixteen year old falsely believed that her good motives would protect her, she was vulnerable, and open to all kinds of tragedies.  Because my Mom falsely believed that she could not acknowledge a problem, she was doomed to suffer the consequences.

In Conclusion:  It is our false (dysfunctional) ideas that lead us into trouble. Refusing to talk about something negative that is happening is dysfunctional.  It carries negative consequences.

Understanding Different Learning Styles impowers parents and Educators

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Learning styles are sometimes described using different words:   spatial/visual learners who learn by seeing. Some are tactile/kinetic learners who learn by doing and/or touching. Others are auditory learners who learn by listening and talking. The rest may be logical learners who learn by thinking. However Plato broke these different learning styles into much more useful detail, and researchers are rediscovering his words of wisdom still important today. Understanding the different learning styles/ personality types is important because it improves one’s abilities as a parent, teacher, and spouse.

The Analytical Learning Style


In the video above, you will learn about the NT personality (Rational/ Analytical) learning style. They make up only 6 to 12 percent of the average population. Many of the ways they learn best are as follows:

· Because Nts are such a small percentage of the population, they are unlikely to have role models in their lives to help them develop their own unique talents. They are often left up to their own experimentation and exploration for that need. Thus the Unschooling Method of instruction works well for these children.

· Sp adults (see second video) are wise to help the rational child by providing them tactical roles, because little Nts are usually eager to add concrete techniques to their skills. Self esteem is developed by recognizing and praising their inventiveness and cleverness. They are not usually impressed with gold stars on their hands or papers…it makes no sense to them.

· These children love board games like Monopoly , and learning games like Ring Around The Phonics. Note: unlike most children, they will quickly get tired of doing the same activity cards in Ring Around The Phonics. When that happens, I start letting them write their own activity cards, helping them if they have not yet learned to write. It is an excellent way to start teaching them writing skills.

·They are more likely to practice reading if it is a subject that interests them. For example, one of my students likes Star Wars and science books. So I will start out reading to him, pointing to the words as I read, pausing periodically for him to pick up where I leave off (especially when I get to the big words). Because he is interested in the subject matter, he continues the reading (out loud) without any hesitation or instruction from me.

· Once the NT knows their phonic sounds, I use Ring Around The Phonics to teach them root words, prefixes, suffixes and word families which helps them decode the larger words. They also like a challenge, so I will sometimes say, “I am going to try to trick you. lets see if you can read this big word.” Usually just stating something that way motivates them, and they will usually figure it out. However, if they can’t figure it out, they can become quite upset with themselves. That can be a time to teach them it is OK not to be perfect.

· Nts can become quite stubborn if others try to manipulate them. However they can benefit greatly by parents and teachers who help them understand why social niceties are important. It is also important to explain to them why you are having them do something they don’t want to do. They are more likely to cooperate if there is a reason they perceive as logical.

· Most of all parents do well to read to their rational child. They are fascinated by stories.

· They look critically at any plan of action, particularly if based on tradition or custom. Rational children need help in understanding that these things are important to others, and a smooth operation to society. When I say understand, I mean the logic behind such things…not just because “I say so”.

· This is funny but true: The ST child likes to accomplish something while learning, and the NT child likes to be taught how to do things just to satisfy his desire to know. So both personalities will learn while building something like a room addition. However, a word of caution; the NT will often stray from the standard way of doing the job just to find out “what if”. It can be quite an adventure.

Nts are very good at analytical thinking, and have trouble understanding that their sarcastic remarks toward others, who are not so analytical, are hurtful. They benefit greatly by understanding the different personality types, and it helps them to develop some of the social niceties.

Note: (It is important not to put inflexible labels on ourselves and others, because, even though we tend to be more of one personality than another, we are never one hundred percent in any one category, and different situations can bring out different traits.)

 

The Sp (Artisan, hands on, kinesthetic) learning Style

 

In this video, you will learn about the Sp (Artisan) learning style. Even though they are 38% of the of the average classroom, they are the most misunderstood. As a result, studies show, they are the most likely to drop out of school early. Some of the ways they learn best are as follows:

· They like to entertain and to be entertained

· Prefer visual over verbal learning

· The more game like it is, the better

· Team play and competition works well with these children

· It is more important to praise their performance, than to praise their product

· They like short activities in which they can move around

· For children that are learning to read, or having trouble learning to read we have found nothing better than Ring Around the Phonics. Hands on learners love it.

· The Artisan often sees other personality types as “stupid”. However if they are helped to learn about, and appreciate the unique gifts of others, they can become Great leaders.

· This is funny but true: The Artisan child likes to accomplish something while learning, and the NT child likes to be taught how to do things just to satisfy his desire to know. So both personalities will learn while building something like a room addition. However, a word of caution; the NT will often stray from the standard way of doing the job just to find out “what if”. It can be quite an adventure.

(It is important not to put inflexible labels on ourselves and others, because, even though we tend to be more of one personality than another, we are never one hundred percent in any one category, and different situations can bring out different traits.)

The Nf (intuitive-feeling, idealist) Learning Style


In this video, you will learn about the NF personality (Intuitive Feeling) learning style. They are only 12 percent of the average population, but have had a profound effect on society. In fact, Gandhi was an NF. Some of the ways they learn best are as follows:

· A personal note written about their work can be a powerful motivator to these children as long as it is positive. A negative approach can provoke an NF into rebellion or inaction.

· Like the SP, the NF learns best from discussion and role playing methods .

· Their vocabulary often exceeds their ability to put things on paper. So, putting their thoughts on a recording first, often helps their creativity.

· Unlike the SP, they prefer team work over competition. They are highly sensitive, and feel the pain of others. As a result, they will often let others win so as not to hurt them. When I play learning games with these children, I am quick to announce that everyone is a winner because they completed the task.

· “The NF child can be particularly responsive to teachers who are accepting and nourishing, who verbalize recognition of feelings, who individualize their instruction, who use lots of small group interaction, who genuinely respond to and accept the ideas and opinions of class members, and who avoid sarcasm and ridicule as a means of control.” (page 128 Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types

· The Idealist learns best through discussion, and role playing, but will adjust to various methods of teaching (Eclectic) as long as it is serving the people involved, and not perceived as cruel or exclusive.

· These children seem to have high moral expectations of themselves, and can be perfectionists in that regard. Unlike the SP, the NF can feel guilt when acting devilish, and often have to learn how to stand up for themselves in a positive manner.

· While the SP wants to know how his toys work, the NF child is more likely to weave imaginary stories around his/ her toys. They can become quite attached to them, feeling a great loss when one is lost or left behind.

· The Introverted NF can become very isolated, and needs help developing social skills in order to develop their full potential. That is not to say they need to become more extroverted, but that they need to develop some social skills in dealing with others.

(It is important not to put inflexible labels on ourselves and others, because, even though we tend to be more of one personality than another, we are never one hundred percent in any one category, and different situations can bring out different traits.)

 

 

Sj (Guardian) Learning Style


In this video, you will learn about the SJ (Guardian) learning style. They make up 40 to 45 percent of the average population. Some of the ways they learn best are as follows:

· They like sticky stars and the like placed on their papers and hands.

· Unlike the SP (artisan), the guardian child will sit quietly waiting for instructions.

· Little Sjs usually respond well to specific assignments and responsibilities like feeding the pets, or setting the table.

· Their source of pride is the approval they receive from figures of authority when they do a job well. Doing their best loses its appeal if approval is not forthcoming. If they are less than helpful, their self respect can suffer as they develop feelings of guilt.

· They do well with workbooks, and the Conventional Method of instruction.

My father was an NT (rational), and my mother an SJ. Mother was quite intelligent in her own way. She was far more successful at running business enterprises, and tending to details. But because she was not good in analytical conversations, my father did not appreciate her unique intelligence. SJs are a good balance for the NT only if the differences are understood and appreciated. Otherwise they become a source of irritation and division.

Note: (It is important not to put inflexible labels on ourselves and others, because, even though we tend to be more of one personality than another, we are never one hundred percent in any one category, and different situations can bring out different traits.)

Resource

The book below not only teach more about the personality types, but it also has a test that one can take with family and friends to help us understand each other better. I found this activity fun and informative. I highly recommend the book because it improves relationships.

https://keirsey.com/temperament/guardian-overview/

Please Understand Me II, by David Keirsey

ADD / ADHD:  It is often thought that these children are unable to concentrate.  In reality, the person with ADD / ADHD is apt to lock in with an exceptional degree of focus when he is genuinely interested.  (Resource 1, Page 50).  At an early age Einstein was considered lacking in intelligence, because teachers had trouble getting him to focus. (Resource 1, page 56).

  1. Because of MRI and SPEC brain scans, psychologists are rethinking everything they knew about learning disorders.
  2.  According to Dr. Amen, there are 7 different kinds of ADD  .  Note that not all of them show brain damage, which indicates that some may be what is often described as different learning styles as far back as Plato. In other words, at least some of those diagnosed with ADD/ ADHD may not have a learning disorder at all.
  3. Like so many learning disorders, there are gifts of genius attached.  Einsteins dis-tractability, which is common among children with ADD / ADHD, is what enabled him to develop his Theory of Relativity.  It is important that parents and educators understand their children’s strengths, and not just their weaknesses.  Spend more time on their interests, rather than their weaknesses. (Resource 1) page 63). What really disables a person is their belief that they are disabled (Resource 1, page 64). There is good suffering, which is working at something. Bad suffering is humiliation, depression and isolation (Resource 1, page 65)

The Genius That Goes With ADD / ADHD 

Understanding ADD / ADHD

  1.  These children showed an enhanced ability to overcome “constraining influences”.  (Resource 1, page 54).
  2.  40% of children with ADD / ADHD also have dyslexia. When they are reading something that disinterests them, their mind wonders uncontrollably (Resource 1, Page 57). When they are reading something that interests them, their mind can be laser-beam intense. (Resource 1, Page 58).  This also describes the learning styles analytical thinker, and hands on learners.
  3.   Someone who is impulsive by nature can “make a lot of mistakes” in business.  So hook up with someone who is by nature methodical and looks at all the possibilities (Resource 1, page 63). Walt Disney was highly creative in his field of interest. But he was unable to make a success of his  abilities, until he hired his bother to help him.
  4.   Drugs  do not teach the behaviors that will help those with ADD / ADHD  function in the world and workplace as they grow older (Resource 1, page 67).
  5. When given the least structure, these children are better able to discipline themselves (Resource 1, page 67).  They also need to take frequent breaks (Resource 1, page 69).   Both of these things are also true with the learning styles of the Hands On Learner, and the Analytical Thinker.
  6. What is obvious to children with ADD / ADHD and dyslexia, others don’t see at all.  They have an uncanny ability to connect seemingly unrelated ideas. (Resource 1, pages 70-71). It is a mistake to think that we need to make brain differences go away (Resource 1, page 77).  Einstein, who so hated rote learning, once said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” (Resource 1, Page 78)

How To Help These Children Succeed

  1.  Finding a field or area of interest that captivates the child with with ADD / ADHD is perhaps the single most important way to ensure future success in life (Resource 1, Page 72).  When you find areas of talent,then motivation will follow.” (Resource 1, Page 74).

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